“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” — Nelson Mandela
Dan and his family attended social gatherings very frequently. Dan and his wife would sometimes host get-togethers. Dan was a very friendly and outgoing man, he had a good job, a nice house, a lovely wife and 2 children. He was a very happy person.
Dan had a secret. He liked attending parties, but he hated going to parties where he would have to hear about Michael’s promotion or Bill’s new car. This would always anger him because they could afford expensive things. Dan even tried to compete with his neighbours but he ended up in debt. He was also keeping secrets from his wife about his financial problems. Even after all this, he felt that he had to keep up with his neighbours.
He soon started feeling stress and went for therapy. He was feeling tired because of all the extra hours he was working to pay his bills. Dan claimed that this was all because of his neighbours, because of them he had to catch up with them. The therapist asked him was it necessary to keep up with them. He said that he did not want to, but he had to.
After a few more therapy sessions, he explored the reasons for why he was keeping up with his neighbours, he had grown up poor and he never wanted his children to go through the same. He had been bullied because Dan’s family could not afford clothes and toys. So he wanted to show it to people that what a comfortable lifestyle he could provide for his family.
Deep down Dan was feeling disgusted, because he would rather spend more time with his family, rather than working extra hours to pay his bills. Eventually his wife also joined therapy sessions. SOmetimes Dan would ask his wife for some money. Soon he realised that what he was doing was useless and started focusing on what was important to him.
This is how the author Amy Morin, tells us how we should not resent on someone else’s success, instead work on our path to success…….